There is so much stress, and frustration, involved in daily living today that millions of people are on the verge of snapping.
Unfortunately, this is especially true for women.
Radical, second-wave feminism’s promotion of “career”, over family, has left women with NO time to truly enjoy their lives.
They don’t have ample time to relax, sleep or regenerate. They don’t even have a few minutes to truly enjoy what little time they have with their children!
These “career-oriented” feminists are constantly on the go, while trying to satisfy the demands of both full-time work and full-time family. They are literally “burning the candle at both ends”, which will only lead to ashes.
Since so many radical, feminist “career” women are still striving to attain the unattainable feminist utopia of, successful career and happy family, they are in a continual, frustrating and stressful battle with themselves to accomplish everything that is demanded of them.
It’s time to STOP, and get OFF the treadmill, because this preposterous feminist “ideal” of “Superwoman” is a stress-inducing illusion and you will kill yourself trying to realize the unachievable.
Radical, second-wave feminism lied to you. Substituting the ideology of feminism for the tenets of your Christian faith will NOT improve your life because “Having it all” is an unrealistic and debilitating goal.
And, there is no shame in this, because most of the jobs available to young mothers will NEVER be as important to them as will their husband, children and home.
Contributing to your home, from your home, is truly the ideal for which these young women should strive.
And besides, God NEVER intended for the mothers of young children to be the bread-winner of the family, because they are rightfully preoccupied with their children’s constant needs.
That’s why God created FATHERS. It’s the father’s JOB, not yours, to financially support his family! If you had a few minutes left, in your hectic day, to give your untenable situation some serious thought, you would agree!
This is the main reason that pursuing a successful career was ALWAYS the responsibility of the father of the family. It requires full-time, unadulterated, focused, concentration at work and serious down-time at home. When both parents work outside the home, neither of these are achieved.
Christian men have always understood this predicament and have always, until very recently, insisted that their wives remain home to care for their children, while they tirelessly toiled, outside the home, in their chosen field of employment.
Unfortunately, after 50 years of anti-Christian feminist indoctrination, the feminist “career” women are only now learning this truth, and they are learning it the hard way.
This peaceful home environment permitted their husbands and children to recharge, and renew themselves, for the next day’s academic challenges and job related onslaught.
Sadly, when so many misguided young feminists left their homes in pursuit of “career”, they took that restorative environment with them. And why is this? because there isn’t anyone who can provide a rewarding home environment for themselves, or for their families, other than the women themselves.
If the God’s honest truth be told, a recuperative home environment is totally unattainable without ample time to provide for it, and not surprisingly, that is exactly what working a 40 hour work week steals from working women – ample time.
And to make matters worse, the stressed “career” mothers, unwittingly, replaced this nurturing environment with one filled with their own stress.
And sadly, since radical, second-wave feminism has been pushing women, out the door of their homes in pursuit of “careers” for more than 50 years, many young working mothers are unaware of how much their home life would improve if they were home full-time.
Many of these women were brought up by radical, second-wave feminists, who chose to deplete their Christian home life, while pursuing their “career”, leaving their daughters with no other examples of family life to emulate.
And so, in these young, misguided, “career” women’s desperate attempts to try to sustain this “ideal” feminist balancing act, of work and home life, their “snapping sign of stress” is unfortunately routinely directed at their “uncooperative” children and their “inconvenient” husbands, because snapping at bosses, co-workers or clients is seriously frowned upon at work.
Unfortunately for many innocent children, if snapping is the stressed mother’s spontaneous reaction to her kid’s, naturally rambunctious, behavior, the father will react in the same manner, only with more forcefulness.
So, this work-related stress, expressed by stressed-out mothers, in a stress-filled home environment, inevitably results in stressed children as well.
Without a calm, stress-free mother to relieve, and offset, all of the job-related problems of their husbands, and the natural antics of their children, the stress level continues to rise, until she explodes!
At this point, many frustrated mothers GRAB their “misbehaving” kids by the arm in an effort to remove them from the situation, resolve the tension and punish them for their perceived offenses.
The kids stop associating their mother’s touch with love, and instead associate it with anger/hate, thereby destroying the youngster’s confidence that they are good kids and worthy of being loved by their mother. This goes for the fathers as well.
This lack of trust, and this chronic experience of fear, will haunt these small children for the rest of their lives. And, it will interfere with their ability to find success and happiness in their lives.
But more importantly, the girls will likely seek out men who will physically, or verbally, hurt them, just as did their father. And the boys will find it difficult to establish a relationship with a girl, due to his unaffectionate mother’s behavior.
This is why it’s SO important for mothers, and fathers, to handle their young children with a light touch! If you want your children to pay attention to what you are saying, and to know that you love them, they must always be treated with Christian patience, kindness, consideration and thoughtfulness, despite their antics, or your burdens.
Remember, kids need lots of explaining when you want them to do, what you want them to do.
Women are very good at talk, talk, talking, and explaining things to their kids, but this process can’t be rushed. It’s been proven that it takes kids a while to internalize your explanation, and then, shift gears to please you.
Being rushed in your explanation, because you are stressed, NEVER works to improve the situation. And most dads can’t help here either, as they are NOT very good at this “explaining” process at all. Mainly because, by nature, they want their commands obeyed immediately, which most kids cannot do!
They want to help in any little way they can, but this won’t happen if they are afraid to go near you.
On the other hand, when they know you love them, through your loving, light touch, they will want to cooperate because they will respond to you with the same love you’ve shown them.
So, quitting your job to stay home, and “feather-your-nest”, will go along way towards calming your family’s home life. But, “petting” your little, and not so little, kids daily, will go even farther.
Lightly touch your kids for no reason at all, but that you LOVE them!
Make a concerted effort to “pet” your kids every time you walk by them. Tousle their hair; stroke their hands; chuck them under the chin; pat their head; touch their shoulder; tweak their nose or cup their cheeks to give them a kiss on the forehead.
Each and every spontaneous demonstration of your love for your child will go a long way towards creating a peaceful home with happy, loving, cooperative kids.