Short Essay – Why Are Working Mothers, with Minor Children, Burning the Candle at Both Ends?

Here is an article that exposes the truth about the ridiculousness of following a feminist lifestyle. Nobody wins and everybody loses. Especially the innocent little children of working mothers, who have no voice.

Ironically this young reporter unearthed the truth about the difficulties inherent in young mother’s attempts to adopt a feminist lifestyle but she failed to find the only permanent solution to this crisis because, despite her feckless advice, these women’s lives are never going to improve by “writing in a journal”, “taking a walk” or “connecting with friends.” Those are just pointless band aids, recklessly applied to a major surgical wound. Tentative at best and pointless at worst.

Only a complete rejection of radical second-wave feminism’s push to prioritize “career” over family, will absolutely solve this ludicrous, frustrating, and exhausting problem. For mothers of minor children, there is no possible way on earth, to find a “balance” between family life and “career.” This irrational search is an unattainable delusion and unfortunately, neither their “careers” nor their children fare well. They both take the brunt of this irrational fraud called feminism, as neither is given the attention they need to thrive.

working mother exhausted 4So, the only answer is to stop brainwashing young women with radical, second-wave feminism’s ideology and get them back to the roots of their Christian faith instead! Motherhood is for women dedicated to their faith, not feminism’s fraudulent fantasies.

Women must stop believing in the “superwoman” PC BS invented by feminism and get their priorities straight. Their children should be the most important people in their lives, NOT their bosses! I mean, seriously, “Do you love your children or not?”

You either want to be married and have kids OR you want to have a full-time “career”, sans children. Don’t drive yourself crazy, because despite what lesbian-led, radical, second-wave feminists tell you, YOU CANNOT HAVE BOTH, SUCCESSFULLY!

In case you are interested in some of the experiences suffered by young feminists fruitlessly trying to balance family and career, Jennifer O’Neill’s article follows.

State of Working Moms Today

Jennifer O'Neill

State of Working Moms Today

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Every working mother remembers the moment — the first time she slips off the tightrope she’s been sprinting on between the two pillars of her life, career and kids. My fall to rock bottom was at 2am on a Tuesday. After toiling in the office well past midnight, I’d trudged home to prepare the lunch and snacks my children would need to bring to daycare first thing in the morning. Standing in the dim light of the kitchen while the rest of my family slept, I wearily steamed fresh apples and pureed them for the baby, boiled pasta and frozen veggies for the toddler, and reached into the fridge for milk to pour into their bottles. But the quart was empty. The kids would wake up crying for milk in a few short hours and we didn’t have a drop. I wanted to scream in frustration and smash the carton against the wall. What I actually did was shuffle into the living room, crumple into an exhausted heap on the floor next to a pile of toys no one had cleaned up, call for takeout of two bottles of milk, and weep.

According to new research, a great many women can relate.Care.com has given Yahoo Parenting an exclusive first look at itsWorking Moms Tipping Point” survey, which reveals that one in four cry by themselves at least once a week due to household-related stress. “We wanted to understand what the point was where somebody raised their hand and said, ‘I can’t take it! I need help,’” Care.com cofounder Donna Levin tells Yahoo Parenting about the poll of nearly 1,000 employed women with at least one child under 18 living at home. “But just how far people push things surprised us.”

Working an average of 37 hours per week, respondents owned up to spending more than double that amount of time (80 hours per week!) slaving away at home on chores, childcare, and cleaning. No wonder a staggering 80 percent admit trying to keep up with it all is severely stressing them out.

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The worst part? Some of this pain is actually self-inflicted. Even though 11 percent of the women confess they’re afraid that their hectic schedules are preventing them from making lasting connections with their children, 29 percent refuse to hire any outside help because they feel guilty about not being able to do it all themselves.

What’s happening to their family life as a result isn’t pretty. Forty-four percent of these women’s families sit down together for dinner less than five nights a week. And when they do, a third say meals last less than 20 minutes. Couple time isn’t any better. The women reported spending just six hours alone with their partners each week.

“We want to share the data so people can realize that they’re not alone,” Levin says. “The survey found that 62 percent of women think everyone else has an easier time getting everything done and somehow they’re the only ones having trouble. This grass-is-greener mentality has to stop.”

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Instead of comparing yourself to friends, health psychologist Dr. Alice Domar recommends commiserating. “People experience stress relief just talking about their problems,” Domar, the executive director of theDomar Center for Mind/Body Health in Waltham, Mass., and associate professor at Harvard Medical School, tells Yahoo Parenting. “There’s an Asian expression that ‘a burden shared is halved.’ If something is bothering you, tell a friend.”

It’s really not something you can ignore, anyway, considering the enormous toll stress takes on your body: Insomnia, headaches, neck and back pain, gastrointestinal issues, joint aches, and heart palpitations are just a few of the physical symptoms of stress that can eventually develop into hypertension, hastened aging, coronary artery disease, and suppressed immune function down the line.

Working moms may not be able to change the stressors in their lives, but they can change their body’s response to the stress by using relaxation techniques. Domar, whose bookHealing Mind, Healthy Womanaddresses just that, prescribes a few easy fixes that can make a big difference. “It’s hard to do,” she admits. “But you have to take care of yourself.”

Connect with friends. “It’s especially tough these days for working moms, because they’re so busy they don’t have the time for relationships with women that they used to have,” Domar acknowledges. “But lack of social support is actually more likely to kill you than things like cigarette smoke or increased blood pressure.” And it doesn’t have to be a two-hour heart-to-heart, she adds. “Little bits of conversation and connection throughout the day is fine too.”

Start writing in a journal. When you’re upset, writing about thoughts and feelings allows your body to interpret stress in a different way, says Domar. “Research has found that when we talk about things, they’re frozen in time,” she explains. “When we write about them, on the other hand, it helps us get over them.” So if you’re upset and only have five minutes to yourself to deal, write about it. “If you vent to someone,” she notes, “you’ll just get more agitated as you repeat the story.”

Lace up and walk. The women surveyed said three hours is all they have to themselves each day, but Domar says that’s still plenty of time to reduce stress with a short stroll. “Walk to the farther bathroom,” she advises. “Take a lap around the office. Do two-for-one specials and walk with a friend. You’ll get a bit of exercise and time to talk. Every little thing you do helps.”

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4 thoughts on “Short Essay – Why Are Working Mothers, with Minor Children, Burning the Candle at Both Ends?

  1. We have femininst because we women got tired of being treated like second class citizen. However the third wave feminists are going too far. Anyway, I’m an egalitarianism because I see both men and women as humans, but that doesn’t mean I see women as man and vice versa.

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    • I don’t believe the facts prove that Christian men EVER treated their wives and daughters as “second class citizens.” But, this was NOT true of non-Christian men. They routinely emotionally, verbally and spiritually abused their wives, sisters and daughters because they did NOT have the Holy Family as a loving example to exemplify. Remember that radical, second-wave feminism was created by non-Christian women, who were victims of those same abusive men, such as Gloria Steinem, Betty Friedan and Bella Abzug. Christian women have always been revered and respected by their husbands, fathers and brothers to the point of sacrificing their lives to protect their women. There is NO truth to the myth that Christian men abused their wives. That would be totally against everything the Bible instructs men to become. They are instead remanded by a God to protect and provide for their families, not just their male family member, but their female family members as well. Don’t believe the worst about Christians as espoused by miserable, jealous, non-Christian, radical, second-wave feminists because they have, and always will be, notorious LIARS who are NOT accountable to Jesus.

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    • I’m not sure where you live but we NEVER treated our woman as second-class citizens in USA. In fact, before radical, second-wave feminism reared its ugly head in the late 1960s and early 1970s, women in our 94% Christian country were revered, respected and highly regarded as immensely valuable contributors to our families, faith, neighborhoods and communities. They were the glue that held our schools, churches, hospitals, and literally, our Christian culture together. After 50 years of irrational, feminist demands, to solve problems that didn’t exist, the nasty, unchristian females of today are looked upon as just another commodity to be used, abused and disposed of. The respect has totally vanished because there’s no such thing as a respectable feminist. And yes, I also see men and women as humans but I reject feminism’s push for role reversal between the sexes in the name of “equality”. They demean woman’s unique contributions to family and denigrate men’s very considerable sacrifices to support their families, as though neither are worthy of note! Feminists only applaud when the reverse is true! And the reverse is a perversion of the special gifts men and women possess. No wonder there’s so much stress! Young brainwashed men and women are desperately trying to live each other’s lives! That’s crazy, frustrating, inefficient, and counterproductive. That’s like asking a 100 pound girl to dig a 10′ ditch. Sure, it will eventually get dug but at what cost, what time and how well? You can’t fight Mother Nature! We were, as men and women, designed with certain, and separate, attributes, talents, capabilities, emotions, strength and temperaments. It’s best to conjoin them and thereby put them to their best use, not try and pretend, like the feminists do, that they don’t exist! That’s just plain stupid!

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