My Blog and Its Purpose

As one of the oldest female baby boomers, my life has been unalterably intertwined with “second-wave” feminist theory.  Fortunately, I am one of the lucky women of my generation. I have managed to survive feminism’s tenacious grip with my rational mind still intact. Unfortunately, for many of my female contemporaries, this is not the case.

I am writing this blog titled,  It’s the Women, Not the Men! – Surviving Feminism, as a warning to the young women who are following in our footsteps. Beware! Feminists, and the proverbial “snake oil salesmen”, are one in the same. They promise a cure but deliver a curse.

The feminists consider my twenty-five year career, as a residential and commercial builder, a raging success. On the surface, the results appear commendable. I conquered the male-dominated field of construction.  I routinely managed one hundred men on my job sites and made good money. My career nearly qualifies me for feminist sainthood. But today, living with my personal regrets, all I can say about my “success” is, “So, what.” I paid too high a price.

Feminism painted a rosy picture for the young, college bound, women of the late 1960s. Regrettably, we were not told that the path upon which we were placed was fraught with unfortunate compromises, debilitating stress and misguided priorities. Pathetically, lost relationships, emotional sacrifices, irreparable familial disruptions and irrational decision-making would become the mainstay of our lives. Those potential pitfalls were never discussed by the illustrious feminist academia. In retrospect, the leaders were only interested in impersonal and superficial results, not in the tragic loses their troops would suffer while trying to become “liberated” Superwomen.

I have lived through feminism’s heyday and am now graced with 20/20 hindsight.  And, as my liberated friend Geraldine once said, “If you can’t be a good example, at least be a terrible warning!” To this end, my blog attempts to translate my life’s experience, and that of my contemporaries, into a straightforward dialog about the unintended consequences of adopting a “feminist lifestyle.”  The blog investigates the origins of the women’s movement, relates it to today’s social issues and warns about the personal and societal risks of becoming a “liberated” woman.

Time is growing short and our country can no longer sit back and ignore the crisis created by its wholesale adoption of feminism’s “knowing.” As my blog will show, the dramatic rise in bad behavior among our women can repeatedly, be traced back to a radical, second-wave feminist or to a feminist theory. Through my research, my personal experiences and that of my fifteen, formally fabulous, friends, I will illustrate the damage unleashed on our society by women wallowing in the irrational theories of “independence” and “liberation.”

Most of today’s men are too young to remember what life in America was like before the advent of radical feminism. They don’t remember when good Christian men ran the country. Their education is the primary purpose of my blog. My intent is to expose our young men to the harsh realities of feminism’s invisible influence on their lives.

Through my insight, these young men will learn what academia has failed to teach them. That they are, indeed, of incalculable value to the perpetuation of our Christian civilization and, if the truth be known, to the happiness of their women as well. I want to encourage them in this knowledge.

Our men can no longer continue to enable women’s irrational feminist behavior through polite deference. It has become painfully clear that we can no longer afford this luxury. Radical feminist theory has destroyed our traditional Christian family. In many ways, feminism has forced women to tragically disappoint their loved ones, time and time again, while in pursuit of pointless careers. Liberated career women not only neglect their families, they neglect their churches, neighborhoods, schools, homes and themselves. They are AWOL and our once illustrious culture is beginning to look the worse for wear.

The truth is, women cannot do everything alone. The concept of Superwoman is an unattainable delusion. Women need to let go of this ridiculous notion and allow their men to make serious commitments to their well-being. If loved, respected and trusted, they will not disappoint.

My hope is that women will relax and, once again, let the Christian men bring peace, sanity and happiness into their lives. They and their children deserve no less.

K. Q. Duane

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63 thoughts on “My Blog and Its Purpose

  1. For those of you who have come here to argue with the author over her religion, keep in mind that she is entitled to her beliefs and no amount of facts that you present is going to change them. I am sure if she was part of another religion you wouldn’t bash it, since bashing Christianity is perfectly OK.

    With that being said, this blog is sorely needed. Feminism is one of the biggest threats to Western Civilization and it is literally exterminating us. At the current rate, the West will cease to exist – and when I say the West, I mean White/Europeans. Feminism has done extensive damage to our society and the family unit. People aren’t getting married and having kids, and more and more kids are being born out of wedlock. Women have been masculinized, while men have been feminized. This is a crisis that needs to be turned around, and fast.

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    • 👍 GO TRUMP! He represents Western civilization’s last stand, as Europe, thanks to radical feminist “leaders” like Germany’s Andrea Merkel, have destroyed their formerly powerful Christian countries, which were the most influential instruments for GOOD in all of human history, and reduced them to third-world banana republics swamped with Muslim “immigrants” bent on Christian Europe’s demise. This election cycle is the most critical revolutionary action taken by Americans since our Founding Fathers signed the Declaration of Independence! VOTE TRUMP OR DIE!

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  2. lol you are a feminist nutbag. You do understand that religion is a fabrication of humans and there is no real basis for any of what you are speaking about right? If what you are saying is true then Harry Potter exists because there is a book about him.

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    • 😂😂😂 You can’t even decipher that I am NOT a feminist, but instead, the arch enemy of feminism and yet, you amusingly claim to “know” that the Bible and the life of Christ are fantasies? 😂😂😂 Since 11 of Christ’s 12 Apostles, men who actually LIVED with Christ, died horrendous, torturous deaths for their belief in Christ’s divinity, I would suggest that they did NOT subject themselves to agonizing martyrdom because they believed Christ to be a fraud. No, they knew He was the Son of God. So no Jack, I don’t believe in fantasies, but you, on the other hand, are living in a world of fanatical, irrational denial. All I feel for you is pity. Good night.

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  3. I don’t know how I got here, but thanks for the laugh! I noticed on another thread you called a celebrity a terrible person because she isn’t Christian. I’m truly sad for all of these positive comments celebrating your bigotry. I will never understand people that focus their lives around a fairy tale and then proceed to tell everyone else what to do. I will pray for you. Just kidding, I wish for you the clarity of increased intelligence.

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  4. wow. Wow.

    and then you ended with peace: “My hope is that women will relax and, once again, let the Christian men bring peace, sanity and happiness into their lives. They and their children deserve no less.”

    wisdom.

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  5. Your comment on my blog has even deeper and greater significance now that I have read some of your story! Yes, we need to bravely speak the truth to young women and to young men, because they are told far too many lies in our society. None of us can find true fulfillment and happiness on our own. I’m looking forward to reading more of your blog!

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    • Thank you for your kind words. I wish you the best of God’s blessings in your ministry towards your nephews. Someday they will be eternally grateful to you for your loving commitment to their Christian lives.

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  6. A very refreshing post.

    Though for me, being a male who has not lived in the States, it is like watching a tennis match ‘from the stands’. Clearly, Feminism Versions 1.0 and 2.0 were reactions to the way the society occurred to females. But what was this occurring based on? Was it based on something observed first hand or hearsay? Was it a function of perceptions, of prejudices learnt during one’s socialisation?

    I suppose it becomes important to get flat with the core underlying concerns, rather than manifestations of it, in case we need to transform the society as a whole (females and males included) into one which shows up with authenticity and fairness.

    Shakti

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    • Thanks for your comment. My blog at kqduane.com is my effort to answer the exact questions you’ve asked about the false ideology of radical feminism. Here are some of my answers to your specific questions. Please Google my posts, “Longform Essay – How Did “Patriarchy” Become a Dirty Word?”, “Longform Essay – Why Did the Founders of Radical Second-Wave Feminism Hate Men?” and also, “Short Essay – First vs. Second vs. Third-Wave Feminism.”

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  7. I don’t identify as a christian woman but I do identify as a recovering feminist and I too blog about it. It’s first of all a form of therapy for me. Feminism nearly destroyed my marriage and family and I needed a way to put my transition into words and thoughts. Secondly it’s a way to be of support to other women like your blog. I’m so blessed to have found you and can’t wait to devour your knowledge on the subject.

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    • Your story is nearly identical to mine. The only difference is that my third-wave feminist daughter-in-law virtually destroyed my family. I began blogging as a way to help me find answers to her irrational and malicious behavior. Third-wave feminist indoctrination proved to be the source of her insanity.
      The prevalence of women who had substituted radical second and third-wave feminist ideology for the tenets of the Christian faith shocked me but explained everything.
      Good luck with your efforts to expose the dark side of feminism. Millions of vulnerable young women need to know there is a better life choice than feminism, and it’s called Christianity. My posts titled, “10+ Tenets of Christianity vs. 10+ Ideals of Radical Feminism” and “Short Essay – First vs. Second vs. Third-Wave Feminism” are a good place to start. Thank you for your comment.

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  8. Thanks K. Q. for your timely and much needed posts explaining the true dangers of feminism and its consequences. I want more people to know about your site so I’ve nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award. Please go to my site at lljostes.wordpress.com to read about the award. Posting the award on your own site, adding 7 special things to know about you and mentioning 10-15 other inspiring bloggers is desired. Blessings! Laura

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  9. Thank You Very Much for being an Excellent voice of Reason in an insane, illogical world! I just found your blog from your response to https://candiceczubernat.wordpress.com/ ‘s blog post. I am glad I found you, and look forward to reading all your posts as I get the time. I am a Conservative Christian first & foremost. Husband to one wife of 27 years, and I am proud of my wife being a stay at home, full time Homemaker! Sure, sometimes we skimp by on one income, but that is worth it to have her at home with our family. We have 4 great kids. We live here in Hawaii……
    I agree with your outlooks on feminism and society, and it is wonderful to find a woman that thinks like you do. I hope you will read my blog at https://sailordale.wordpress.com/ Thanks & God Bless!

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    • Thank you too for being a Christian father to your wonderful wife and family. You are the bedrock of Christian America and I hope you continue to defend the faith for both your family’s future and America’s. God bless you on your life’s journey to keep the world safe from non-Christian, radical feminist ideology.

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    • Thank you. It’s an uphill battle but something I am compelled to do for women who have lost sight of Jesus and for the young men who are suffering the consequences as well. I look forward to visiting your blog. God bless your efforts in this regard too.

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  10. Wonderful, wonderful post. Thank you.

    A beautiful thing to behold is a strong, independent, intelligent woman who is proud to be a woman, and proud to be a wife and mother if that is what she is called to be.

    The radical feminist movement did in fact lie to us in so many ways.

    One of the lies is that birth control is good for women. Not only is it a known carcinogen, but so many of the problems in todays society come from removing sex from procreation.

    Women have been given a unique gift in that we can share with God in the bringing fourth new life. We have turned pregnancy into a disease, something to be avoided at all costs and we are paying the price. Society is paying the price.

    Birth control opened the door to abortion on demand and the objectifying of women in new and horrible ways. It opened the door to so-called gay marriage and high divorce rates, and too many children living in single parent homes.

    How in the world so-called intelligent women can glorify books like 50 Shades of Grey, where the main female character gives herself as a sex slave to a man, is a great mystery.

    I know I am all over the map here. Bottom line is that we are in a mess.

    We need God. We need Him badly.

    You do sound like quite an accomplished woman. I am sorry things didn’t turn out well for you. But it is wonderful you have seen the error in thinking you could have it all. All any of us have is today, and we get the chance to start anew every day.

    There aren’t too many people who get it completely right in the early part of their lives. We all have some regrets.

    Good thing we have a forgiving God, a God who loves us no matter what, a God who is patient with us, and One who picks us up over and over again.

    God Bless you and thank you for your wonderful blog.

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    • Thank you. Your observations, on all accounts, are very accurate. Women by the millions have substituted the ideology of radical feminism for the tenets of their Christian faith with cataclysmic results, not only for them personally. but for our nation as well. This began the day the U.S. Supreme Court removed prayer from our public schools. It created a vacuum into which the non-Christian, radical feminists flooded, replacing all of the wonderful standards of behavior, associated with Christianity, with the secularized, and banal, behavior associated with humanism. It has been a loss from which America may never recover unless Christian women band together and begin to loudly oppose all aspects of radical feminism, and the twisted women in academia, who are stealing our daughters away from God. Thank you for your comment and God bless you as well.

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      • Public schools should not force religious belief (be it Christianity or another faith) on anyone, because religion is a personal choice. That isn’t to say that you couldn’t have a Christian group at lunchtime or after school, but it should be voluntary.

        Putting Christian standards of behaviour above those of non-Christians is a little insulting. Plenty of non-Christians are able to lead good and balanced lives, help others, raise families and participate in their communities and can quietly reflect and contemplate rather than pray. They do these things because these are the right things to do in a successful society and because they provide deep personal fulfillment, not because a divine voice told them to.

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      • Not thin air. Knowledge, study, experience, consultation, contemplation, logic, empathy, responsibility, law and many other factors.

        By the way, I do broadly agree with the underlying theme here (that careers need to be balanced with other areas of life, particularly family), I just don’t understand why it has to be presented as a religious argument.

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      • You are basically describing humanism, which relies on man’s laws, rather than God’s. And in this, lies the danger. Without any accountability to anyone (God) other than himself, man will inevidably resort to evil behavior, in order to satisfy his preceived “needs.” This causes cuvilization to eventally implode.

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      • The witch hunts were an isolated product of Salem, Massachusetts and only someone with a political agenda could possibly use it as an excuse to condemn Christisnity en toto. The Crusades were an honorable and noble effort to reclaim Jerusalem from the muslims. We could use more Crusaders today. The Spanish Inquisition was another example of Christians (King Ferdinand and Queen Isabella) efforts to defend the faith and ensure the orthodoxy of the Jewish and Muslim (again) converts, of whom they were rightfully suspicious. And the pedophilia priests were an, unintended consequence, of the liberalization of the Church by Vatican II and cannot be used to condemn Christianity as a whole either. Your efforts to dismiss the entirety of Christian history, based on a very, very few examples, is like throwing the baby out with the bathwater. There is no other faith on earth that has allowed man to advance to the level he has, other than Christianity. Name another faith that has produced the intellectual advances, operas, medical centers, symphonies, etc? Your pagan view of the world deliberately denies the real advancements provided to men by the Christian men who developed Western Civilization. And in your efforts to deny the importance of Christianity to man, you are belittling those very same vital contributions to mankind. The truth is that without Christianity we would all still be living in barbarous “Rome.” Only Christianity, with its personal accountability to God for their behavior, has succeeded in soothing man’s savage soul, for over 2000 years. Nothing else can compare to the unpredcidented development of liberty and human rights. If after 2000 years of history, there are but 4 missteps, i woulf say that that just goes to prove my point. Humanity is much improved by the adoption of the tenets of Christianity and man is a much lesser being when he denies, or is denied, his faith in our Creator.

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  11. Your comments on the Christa McClure embezzlement charges predictions came true–the 8 felonies were dropped and she was allowed to plead guilty to a misdemeanor. I feel this is very unfair for U. S. Attorney Carl Rostad to allow–she received monies and did so knowingly. Rostad is in charge of the Guardian Project–prosecuting corruption cases on Montana’s reservations. I asked during my sentencing on June 24th why he dropped the felony charges and allowed her to plead guilty to a misdeameanor. My attorney asked that charges against me be dropped because I had assisted them unknowingly–and then they used the info to prosecute me to the fullest. I did not knowingly conspire to defraud the government and I did not receive a penny or get anything out of it–yet he refused to give me the same option that he gave Christa McClure!!! Who could I appeal this to–any ideas would be helpful. Liz Sherman – blackfeet_youth@yahoo.com

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  12. We were in a similar field, I managed commercial electrical projects like shopping centers. I never tried to be like a man and I was just myself. Sometimes I was met with discrimination but then they usually ended up realizing I knew my stuff and for those who didn’t, they could stuff it! lol

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  13. As a young woman, I guess the question I’m left with is whether or not you see there being a space in feminist theory and discourse for Christian women, and perhaps even a sect of feminism which is compatible with a Christian lifestyle and belief system.

    As someone who grew up in a Catholic household and a secular world, I have a really hard time reconciling what it often seems the church defines as my primary role and value – that of a mother and caregiver, with the things I want to do. I want to have a career working in the media, I want to be able to volunteer my time to causes I care about, and I want to continue to learn about theology and Christian living. I don’t think my opportunities for those things should be limited by my womanhood, but I also don’t think it makes sense for my only valued role to be that of a mother, especially since that’s something I’m choosing to wait on until I’m married and God only knows when I’ll meet the person that will happen with.

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    • There is nothing wrong with pursuing your career goals as long as you don’t lose your soul along the way. By that I mean, if you truly want to, ultimately, marry a great guy and have children of your own, you must always keep that goal in mind as your travel along your “career” path. Don’t put all of yourself into your work, never define yourself only by your work, never deny yourself the possibility of a relationship developing to a higher level because you are consumed by your work. Don’t do casual hook-ups or drink or drug til you fall down because your future husband, and especially you children, deserve a better wife and mother than that. You have to strive for a balanced life that’s not focused just on your “career” and don’t let the feminists make you feel guilty for ultimately wanting a family. That desire is natural, and what they won’t tell you is that you will never find your bliss at work. When you find the right guy, who had better be able to support both you and the kids on his own, happily ditch your “career” and enjoy your family life. It is a blessing the lesbian-led, feminist leaders are incapable of understanding or appreciating. Don’t let them convince you otherwise because it will be totally at your expense, not theirs. Good luck and God bless.

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    • Alternatively, you could pursue a life for yourself without looking to entrap a man, have an enriching career and still end up married.

      Just thought I’d put the alternative point of view. I have had a career in the media for more than 30 years, I’ve been married for 30 years.

      I supported my husband when I could earn more money than him. I really, really enjoyed my career, I still enjoy my current freelance work. We fit round whoever can make the money.

      There are feminist christians. I’m not one, but they are out there. My first boss in media was a catholic woman. She was a great role model.

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      • Any woman is entitled to pursue a “career.” My point has always been that there is nothing wrong with that, as long as you do not have minor children at home, which I gather from your comment, that you don’t, or didn’t, while pursuing your career.
        And, no, women cannot be a Christian AND a feminist. They are diametrically opposed to each other, and like oil and water, they do not mix. Please read my post, “10+ Tenets of Christianity vs. 10+ Ideals of Radical Feminism” for a more detailed explanation as to why they can’t be combined within one woman.

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      • It’s not a “career” in quotation marks. It’s a career. Simple as that. There are a lot of different options for childcare that don’t negate a woman following her chosen career. 1) the husband provides child care. 2) relatives provide child care. 3) child care is bought, whether nanny, au pair, or extended nursery hours.

        A couple, if we are talking about a two parent family, chooses what suits them best, both financially and emotionally. My partner has a colleague who was fitting in his work around childcare, but now that his partner has qualified as an accountant he has stopped working totally. Surely a father is able to provide care equally as well as a mother? I think it’s insulting to suggest otherwise.

        I’ll skip on the lecture thanks, although ironically, I agree with you. I can’t see how they mix either. But, as other women say they are feminist and Christian, I respect their view, it’s not up to me to impose my opinion on them. Beliefs are up to the individual. And as a non-Christian, I’m happy to accept people who are on face value. Each to their own.

        Thanks for the reply.

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      • Every view you have is colored my your adoption of the “me first” ideology of feminism. Children are always placed below the “needs” of the feminist. And this is exactly where feminism diverges dramatically from Christianity, which instead puts children at the center of its priorities. Radical feminism creates a selfish, egotistical female and the other a generous, caring soul.
        As far as my use of “career” goes, the vast majority of feminists do not truly have careers, such as doctor, lawyer, accountant or engineer. They simply go to work answering phones or clerking. That’s why I feel, as mothers of children, their “careers” are unworthy of the vitally important time they spend away from their minor children pursuing, what is more like a hobby, than a career.
        With regards to childcare, you are again regurgitating the depleted view of children taken by radical feminism in order to justify a woman’s “career.” The truth is that NO ONE can replace, substitute for or impersonate a small child’s mother, not even the child’s father. And no small child should be treated with such disdain or inconsideration, and most especially not by the child’s mother!

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      • Yes, I put me first. My life is short enough as it is, and if I don’t value me, how will I value others? Nothing to do with feminism. That’s about self-esteem and respect for others.

        I could say, everything you trot out is just indoctrinated biblical sexist submissive rhetoric.

        People can put children first without being religious. There are plenty of generous caring souls who don’t subscribe to a religion.

        Wow! Very elitist huh? Surely any career is valid? Whatever it is? Are you a snob as well as sexist and religious? So a secretary can’t have a career but a medic can? That is so unbelievable and incredibly blinkered. Have you heard of discrimination? And how insulting to women who need to earn money to describe their work as a hobby.

        Why disrespect the fathers in this? The word parents refers to two people. Both have the same responsibilities. Why is a mother more important than a father? I spent a lot of time with my father when I was a child. We went to the bank, the nursery (plants not children), his places of business, we worked in the garden together. Child care was shared, even back 50 years ago.

        Before I read this, I was writing a post. It’s about children, love, and marriage:

        https://cloudsmovingin.wordpress.com/2015/03/17/no-one-else-asked-me/

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      • You are drowning in radical feminist rhetoric. Stop and think for a minute. Selfishness is NEVER a good thing! It colors everything you do and it impedes much of your ability to be happy. No one wants to be associated with anyone who cares solely for themselves! That is a purely feminist view of the world. “If I don’t look out for myself, nobody else will.” Christianity views life from the opposite corner. “If you look out for others, others will look out for you.” It presumes you are a worthy person. It does not presume that you must prove you are worthy.

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  14. Excellent post. The culture of feminism is creating havoc — and I feel bad for the amazing amount of stress it places on women these days. Mainly, I believe, because it’s a cultural thought that bring such little fulfillment.

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    • You are exactly right. Bliss is unattainable once women adopt radical feminism as a way of life. Sadly, more and more formerly Christian women have chosen to replace their Christian faith with the irrational ideology of radical, second-wave feminism. This not only wreaks havoc on their personal lives, but through their public positions of influence, they are wreaking havoc on most of our cherished institutions, including academia, government, military, organized religion, judiciary, politics and business.

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    • Why do you think the right to equal opportunities, equal pay, and not to be sexually molested or abused, places stress on women? And, outwith the western world, to receive basic health care and education, and shock, horror, even the chance to earn money? You think all this places stress on women? Or do you think it’s better that women remain uneducated chattels?

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      • What makes you think those things were ever denied to women when Christianity ruled women’s lives? Those outlandish views are purely non-Christian, radical feminist BS, deliberately promulgated by the twisted childhood’s of the non-Christian founders of second-wave feminism.
        Christianity has always been based on equal, but different, responsibilities for men and women. Unlike ALL other religions, Christianity has NEVER viewed women as second-class citizens as compared to men. NEVER! In fact Christian women are viewed by their fathers, husbands, brothers, nephews and grandsons as being worthy to die for! They are valued and loved as individuals for the tremendous and invaluable contributions they make to their families, especially their children, who are the future. There it is again. The principle difference between Christianity and feminism? even the men place their children’s needs above their own and they know that their wives and mothers hold the most valuable key to their little children’s survival and as such are REVERED for that reason.
        The premise of “inequality” for women is more non-Christian feminist BS based on its founder’s experience as children of non-Christian fathers, brothers, etc. who were domineering, overpowering, rude, selfish and inconsiderate to their families, but especially to their women.
        Plus, “inequality” is a false pretext based on what “job” you hold in the public arena. Come on. Where’s the FEMALE “inequality” there? Even among men, there is no “equality” among jobs. It is simply another feminist foible to pit women against men (men, who radical feminists hate for the reasons I just listed) and non-Christians against Christians (for the jealousy they feel for being denied the love Christians experience through their family interactions). Radical, second-wave feminism’s pretext of “equality” does not seek equality for women, it seeks inequality for men. Read my post, “Longform Essay – Does the false pretext of “equality” diminish, rather than increase, the value of women?”
        Radical feminism is a smoke screen for the advancement of irrational hatred by non-Christian females whose views are just this side of insanity. And they don’t care, that the people who suffer the most, women and children, are having their happiness sacrificed along the way because they are just that insane.

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