Applying to college in high school puts young women on a life-long, stress filled treadmill. And, unfortunately, they will find it nearly impossible to get off the treadmill once they start without disappointing their parents, who spent a fortune sending them there. Or, more importantly, disappointing themselves, their co-workers, their feminist female friends and peers when they realize that their bliss revolves around daydreams of getting married and having babies, rather than practicing law or being a corporate accountant.
This should not be. If she wants to stay home from college and marry, that’s what she should be allowed to do. Because unless her college degree will help her to improve her family’s business, it is, in most cases, a waste of her precious time and talents which are better used for her family and in her community.
And be assured, even if she doesn’t go to college, she will still find her bliss because young women’s communal contributions have always been an integral part of the fabric that knits a small town together. In addition, they are the guarantors of the future because without young mothers, and their children, a community eventually grows old and dies. We have all witnessed this type of decay, a thousand times over, in nearly every region of America, because too many young women leave home to attend college and never return, but for an occasional visit.
A college degree for women is fraught with conflicts. Because, despite securing the expensive degree, establishing the career, expensing the salary and, adopting the feminist lifestyle – the maternal desire for marriage and children does not disappear.
Today, the acceptable concession to this need is called a “working mother.” Sounds simple
doesn’t it? But, it isn’t. That’s when the treadmill starts to go faster and faster and faster, building on itself, until everything is just a whirl of activity, swallowing the children like a tornado while everyone foolishly strives to “develop” and provide for another generation of children, qualified to attend college in the future on the pipe dream of getting a better job.
This obsessive compulsive behavior often begins with parents stressing-out over getting their 3-year-old into the right college prep, pre-school! This preoccupation doesn’t make sense. It becomes a never-ending, dizzying and, fraudulent cycle of misguided radical feminist priorities. To those old hags – it’s all about the career, now, then and in the future. To them, nothing else matters – not the women, their families, their children, their communities and certainly nor the men. All women MUST have a “career”.
And so the rat race goes on, denying another generation of women the pleasure of family life, unafflicted by the demands of a “career”.
If the rat race continues to fruition and the student graduates from college, the fraud is only then revealed. The salary made upon graduation rarely offsets the tremendous expense of a four-year college degree, thus forcing many women to continue to work well beyond their interest in their “career.” But more disturbing is the fact that most graduates don’t even find jobs in their field and for those who do, the hours are awful and the salary rarely covers their expenses. So home they come anyway, in debt, debauched, disappointed and defeated, to take whatever job they can find. What a waste.
Where is the upside? Being able to tell your feminist friends that your daughter went to college? Sorry. It’s not worth the price. Today, the colleges take everything, not even guaranteeing a job in return, while the girl’s families, home town friends and communities miss them desperately.
For those few, who are lucky enough to find a good job after graduation, the pressure of career turns homes become pit-stops, and schools into babysitters. And as the demands of career escalate, and the women become more and more immersed in the weighty world of work, they waste their lives and their God-given talents on inanimate, unresponsive, heartless businesses rather than on their family, friends, and neighbors, who sincerely need and appreciate them. Let the men deal with work instead. They are better suited temperamentally for business anyway.
So radical feminism prevails, and instead of embracing the traditional role of women, which is to reinforce their family and community ties, millions of girls go off to college, when it would have been better for everyone, including their home towns, if they had stayed home, safely marrying some nice, local guy, whose family her family has known for generations, and have six great kids to care for them in their declining years and to carry on after them. For this, there is no downside.
If the young women had stayed locally, they would have been another link in the life of their family and their community, contributing daily to the well-being and happiness of those they love, rather than trying to unsuccessfully, foolishly and ludicrously transform their co-workers into their “family.”
The generational connection to home, friends, and family builds and strengthens, not only the women, but the community as well. Attaining maturity and a sincere sense of responsibility are the inherent results of this interdependency and intermarriage among people who are very well-known to each other. As a result, the community becomes a cohesive network of trust and understanding, allowing its inhabitants, specially its children, to thrive and flourish unfettered by malice, fear or suspicion because everyone knows everyone. Most of small town America functioned under this self-regulating process until radical feminism changed the game plan for the worse in the late 1960s and early 1970s. What a loss for everyone.
If the young women want to attend college, do it locally, so they are better
protected from the debauchery so prevalent today on college campus’ inflicted by strangers without ties, or commitments, to you, your daughter, your family or your community. And when they want to marry locally, support those dreams too. Encourage the young men to become the bread-winner and teach your daughter faith and frugality. The troubles will naturally come but they will have lots of family members to help them through the age-old experiences of married life. And, the remainder of the Christian community, functioning under the protection and care of the men whose families have sustained it for generations, will take care of the rest.
There is no doubt that working is a waste of good women because they are desperately needed at home. (If you don’t think you can “afford” to stay home, read Danielle Wagasky’s blog – www.blissfulanddomestic.com to see that you can.)Thanks to the insidiousness of radical feminism they erroneously spend their lives concentrating on jobs that will never matter in the long run, while denying themselves, their relatives and their communities the joy of their many unborn children, who, unlike the government, will happily help see them safely into the unknown future.
So, rather than sending all of the young women away to college to find “better jobs”, leaving an aging populous behind to cope with the loss – keep them home. Most of the really important and rewarding commitments in life revolve around the needs of family, friends and neighbors in your small town anyway. Let them stay and enjoy them.
Sadly, radical, second-wave feminism convinced generations of women that they must have a “career” to be happy, when all the biological and emotional evidence points in the opposite direction. It’s time to give up the ghost and let the girls stay home, marry and have as many children as they’d like, guilt free. They will manage just fine and we, as a country, will be better off for their joyous efforts.
Remember, that despite what radical feminism wants you to believe, no one has ever regretted having “too many” children, but the truth is that there are millions of “liberated” women who continue to deeply regret, not having had more, or any children at all. It’s the Women, Not the Men! to be continued…